“If you know someone who has lost a very important person in their life, and you’re afraid to mention it because you think it might make the person sad by reminding them of someone who died- you’re not reminding them; they didn’t forget. What you’re reminding them of is that you remembered that the person lived. And that is a great, great gift.”
Absolutely! My parents and I still talk about Elizabeth all the time, she’s still a part of our lives and always will be. You have no idea how nice it is to know people have not forgotten her. Talk about her, tell me about the stories you have of her, I want to hear them!
“Because we don’t know when we will die, we get to think of life as an inexhaustible well, yet everything happens only a certain number of times, and a very small number, really. How many more times will you remember a certain afternoon of your childhood, some afternoon that’s so deeply a part of your being that you can’t even conceive of your life without it? Perhaps four or five times more, perhaps not even that. How many more times will you watch the full moon rise? Perhaps twenty. And yet it all seems limitless.”
Live your life knowing and fully understanding that nothing is permanent, chase those moments that make you feel alive, one day you won’t be able to anymore.
“To say someone can’t feel bad because someone else has it worse is like saying someone can’t be happy because someone else might have it better.”
When I overhear someone attempt to make a depressed person feel better by saying something like “you have a roof over their head, you have no reason to feel sad” I cringe. Realize that comparing lives does not magically remove a persons suffering. When you tell them they have no reason to feel sad you are actually adding guilt on top of their pain. If your intention is to help then let them speak, let them feel heard and offer your silence. Most often that means more than words ever could.
“We all keep running after frivolous things throughout our lives. The brake is suddenly pulled when we start losing the presence of those souls that we always took for granted. That’s when we halt our sprints and start reminiscing about the memories that could have been made more beautiful if only we had bothered a little. In the end, only things that we are left with are regrets, guilt and loneliness.”
As human beings, we require love and connection, not the newest iPhone or trendiest new outfit. This “need” for materialist things have been shoved down our throats since birth because of clever advertising tactics. Of course, finding joy in buying a new item every now and then is completely fine, it becomes a problem when we give it too much importance; when we start choosing and prioritizing products/status over the people we love. Understand that the people we love will not be around forever so enjoy them now, be present.
“And every day the world will drag you by the hand yelling, “This is important! And this is important! You need to worry about this! And this! And this!” And each day it’s up to you to yank your hand back and say, “No. This is what’s important.”
Be conscious enough to pull your hand away and focus your attention on what really matters in life.