I asked some of my dear friends how they managed to cope when life knocks them down. They all came back with varying responses. Each of their unique personalities shines through their words and I found it so touching to hear what helps them, I learned a lot about my friends reading their coping strategies.
I’m well aware that no test could ever possibly understand 100% of who we are as. We are all a result of many confounding and complex factors. But I do believe these tests are valuable in providing us tools to better understand ourselves.
It’s like I’ve finally crossed enough territory, that I can look back and see my footsteps with enough distance to understand it, to make sense of it.
It’s like working hard in the garden on your body and then allowing yourself the freedom of taking a break; giving the sun and birds and butterflies a chance to play their role in keeping this garden that is your body flourishing and healthy.
“Don’t bother trying to be a good person. You do not become good by trying to be good, but by finding the goodness that is already within you, and allowing that goodness to emerge.”
The Miracle question is an interesting technique used in Solution Focused Therapy that helps a therapist guide the sessions for a client. It’s also something useful to try out with yourself.
But the Cheshire cat had a very good point: tell me where you want to go, otherwise, I’ll tell you where you go. Basically, life will decide for you if you don’t decide for yourself.
As both an extrovert and introvert, I need to balance both of these sides equally. I’ve noticed that when I treat my extroverted side with the right mix of ingredients, the introverted side benefits for many days, even months. It’s sort of like a symbiotic relationship.
I understand why you want to leave this world when it feels like its pushing you out of it. The pain you are experiencing is real and unescapable.
I heard your voice in the wind today
and I turned to see your face;
The warmth of the wind caressed me
as I stood silently in place.