Grief is not something you complete. It’s a new dimension of self.
The Miracle question is an interesting technique used in Solution Focused Therapy that helps a therapist guide the sessions for a client. It’s also something useful to try out with yourself.
But the Cheshire cat had a very good point: tell me where you want to go, otherwise, I’ll tell you where you go. Basically, life will decide for you if you don’t decide for yourself.
I imagine emotional triggers like waves crashing over me in a rough ocean. I’m swimming in a beach, somewhere with warm water and white sand. The water is just deep enough for my feet to reach the bottom. I float like a buoy, in rhythm with the water.
In a way, we’re all out there doing our fieldwork on ourselves, bearing the elements and finding clues to piece ourselves together.
It’s winter in Beijing and I’m at a crowded bar with loud music. As I take my jacket off, I ask my friends if they want a drink. They nod. I push my way to the front of the bar, squeezing through the crowd and lean my elbows on the counter.
You ever read a quote that really sticks to you? That helps you make big decisions in your life? This quote is that for me. I remember the first time I read it was on Tumblr. I was finishing up University and anxiously debating whether or not I should move to China for three months. […]
I genuinely feel like a different human now that I have been living in Beijing for almost 2 years. It’s changed everything.
Living in Beijing has given me a real sense of what a small amount of space I occupy on this great, big planet.